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A Grown-Up's Guide to Kids' Wiring by Kathleen Edelman


Full Title: A Grown-Up’s Guide to Kids’ Wiring
Page Count: 341 pages
Genres: Parenting, Christian Business and Professional Growth
Publisher: Kind Words Are Cool LLC
Publication Date: July 7, 2021
ISBN: 9781943535552
Price: $29.99
Formats Available: Paperback
Where to Buy: Amazon,,
Companion Videos: Available for free on the Kind Words Are Cool channel on YouTube

Companion Products:

Kind Words for Kids: 100 Tear-Off Notes for Kids of All Ages

Temperament Assessment for Grown-Ups (40-question digital quiz)


Social: @isaidyouheard

No matter the age or stage, kids are... hard.

But understanding their wiring might change the way you look at (and speak to) every child that crosses your path from this day forward.

Communication expert Kathleen Edelman has spent three decades helping grown-ups make sense of the kids around them. The result? Better behavior, better relationships. In this book and the six videos that go along with it, she'll do the same thing for you and the kids in your family, in your classroom, or on your team.




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Kathleen Edelman has one goal in life... to help people learn to speak kindly to one another. She has spent 30 years counseling and coaching kids and families on the art of communication, using the four temperaments as a foundation. Audiences around the globe have responded to Kathleen’s simple message that Kind Words Are Cool™, viewing her videos more than six and a half million times and turning her first book, I Said This, You Heard That, into a bestseller. She has a master's degree in Christian Counseling Psychology, a big heart for educators, and a surprising passion for fast cars and martial arts. She is married and has two grown children.


Tell me a little about your background and what led you to write this book.

Thirty years ago I was moving cross-country and brought a stash of audiocassettes along for the drive from California to Maryland. One was a recording by Florence Littauer, who wrote a book called Personality Plus. That cassette tape changed my life. After listening to Florence’s talk, I decided on the spot to go back to school to get a master’s degree in counseling, and eventually—with Florence as my mentor—I started coaching people on how their wiring affects their communication.

In the decades since, everyone has wanted to talk to me about their kids! Regardless of what issue brought them to my office, clients end up asking me about something going on at home. After every presentation, someone in the audience comes up and wants to talk about their child. I’m a parent, so I can empathize. Kids are complicated! With this book, I’m hoping to replicate the “aha”

moments I see in my office when grown-ups figure out that understanding temperament explains (and fixes!) so many of their frustrations with the kids around them.

Can you briefly explain what temperament is?

Temperament is your natural, default wiring. It’s like your eye color or fingerprint; you’re born with it and it never changes. It influences how you behave and—the part I’m most passionate about—how you speak. Temperament is the reason some people are outgoing, bubbly talkers and others are reserved, serious thinkers.

There are four temperaments, each with unique strengths, weaknesses, and tendencies. You most often see them matched with colors. What I love about the temperaments as a framework is that it is so easy to grasp. I could explain it to you in ten minutes and it would already help you communicate more effectively. Yet there are layers to keep learning, as I’ve been doing for 30 years, that make it even more life-changing.

Both of your books are about the four temperaments, but your first one was meant to help adults understand their own temperament. Why did you decide to write about kids this time?

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